Rehearse yourself the worst catastrophe that could ever happen to you. Just in case, because, well, shit happens.
How can we live a balanced-serene life when we dont have any idea what might happen?
It seems almost impossible but there is a way. Be Stoic. One of the most known way to be Stoic is (mentaly)prepare yourself for the worst, unexpected catastrophe that could/will happen in any moment, not only once but several times. But its ok, really, because that is how life is.
Someone will harshly step on your feet in the middle of the street or a crowded metro and since you were not prepared, you probably feel very upset about it, but hey we know that happens and after sometime we dont even think about it anymore. So most of the time we decide to restrain and stay calm.
Stoic is so far as i understood, all about this in life scale. Have a control of what you want to feel during uncontrolable events. Its not pessimism that everything is bad, evil and useless. It is to help us be less heartbroken and give us a strenght to say, (i find this is a perfect words to describe) ''shit happen.''
I am fond with this whole Stoic thing, but literally how can we be stoic right away? I am not an enlightened Buddha. It sounds like i have to kill my emotional cells to become and to do so, i should visit hell to be balanced and serene about whatever that happens on the earth. Plus, deep down i do not even want to restrain whatever feeling that i feel.
Good news is as we continue our life without even noticing, we all eventually become Stoic-ish by passing numerous personal drama-moments. Like learn how to swim. Logically we know, don't drink water, don't panic and just relax. Yeah, say that to a person who throw herself for the first time of her life right in the middle of huge, deep liquid substance that she normally drinks. I guess this is the experience of most people's first swimming day. However, eventually i learn how to throw myself and be able to remain clam, floating like a log and even swimming. (only if i didn't dare to breath.)
Stoic is handy when time has come that we need realistic consolation. We learn that it is ok being breakdown because we know we will be on our feet again not always because we are strong but because the time will eventually sweep it. We all felt those moment of, oh everything is senseless and i am the most tragic person but then after sometime, we feel hungry, need to poop, and then, we are wondering and even laugh about how much 'Oscar' we were. Then we will start again putting our feet into things that will probably crush us down again. No worries, even if the breakdown is too much to handle, we always have words of wisdom that gives us strength.
Useful links to Stoicism